Beware of the “Quick Question”

I you provide professional services, you should add the words “quick question” to your e-mail configuration settings and send those messages straight to the spam folder. Case in point from today:

RE: Quick Question

Hello Andreas,

my German husband and I have recently separated and will divorce. I’m British (inzwischen doppelte Staatsangehörigkeit ), we married in the UK in 1995 and have been living in Germany ever since.

If I’ve understood you rightly we could divorce under both German and British law, though German law would be more usual and might be less complicated. Is that correct?

We have three teenagers living with me. My husband earns 6x more than me. Would there be any radical advantages from my side to go with British law (apart from it being quicker – my husband is having an affair )?

Thanks for a short reply.

Best wishes
Rachel K[……].

PS.  I love Persians too and will make a donation to Freundeskreis Asyl for your reply.

So the lady could read enough about me to determine that I “love Persians” (which is not correct, as I love, if at all, individual people, but never nationalities or ethnicities), but was willfully ignoring my repeated warnings that I don’t give legal advice for free.

Hence my subtle reminder:

Hello Rachel,

I appreciate your offer to donate to Freundeskreis Asyl, but I am not sure how I will benefit from that.

Andreas Moser

She either didn’t get it or was trying hard, but not without success, to be pesky as hell.

Hello Andreas,

isn’t supporting something close to your heart a thoughtful way of saying thank you for pointing me in the right direction with my question?


No, it isn’t. Or as I expressed it, because I was cooking and watching a Western movie at the time:

​That ain’t puttin’ no food into my stomach, Ma’am.

And then she really turned from wannabe-client to troll:

Isn’t warmth in your heart worth something too??!

It surprises me that people can read around my blog for legal advice, to find my e-mail address, my Skype ID and so on, but overlook the many examples of me publishing e-mails by people who didn’t manage to become my clients. That’s an important part of this blog. But maybe some people are subconsciously aiming for these five minutes of infamy instead of proper legal advice.

I think I understand why the husband left.

About Andreas Moser

Travelling the world and writing about it. I have degrees in law and philosophy, but I'd much rather be a writer, a spy or a hobo.
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16 Responses to Beware of the “Quick Question”

  1. mfatefull says:

    They’re also lying.
    If they’re saying they are willing to donate (as in – money donation? Unless not), but refuse to pay the fee for legal advice at the same time, does it mean that they have not donated and have no intention to? Or is this conditional? Doesn’t sound right.
    And then they begin pleading. Which is even worse.

  2. Anonymous says:

    This was one of the more entertaining posts. Naw your time ain‘t free, not by a long shot, pardner!

    What were you cooking? Texas chili, perhaps?

  3. Das ist gut, das kennen Anwälte, Steuerberater und andere Steuerfachkräfte und ähnliche Berufe nur zu gut :D.

  4. Robert Schaal says:

    Hi, I have a problem with a tenant who has not paid rent for 23 months, and we found out that he gets paid the rent and heating and all costs by the Job Centre but he does not pay us. we informed the Job Centre 7 months ago but they said they will investigate until today we have not heard anything from the job centre.
    Is thier anything we can do….. surely this is fraud….
    how do I get them out…



    • This seems fraudulent indeed, and the Job Centre shouldn’t need 7 months to sort that out.
      Before evicting your tenants, you have to terminate the lease pursuant to the clauses in the lease contract and the Civil Code BGB. Depending on the duration of the lease, there is a notice period of at least 3 months.

  5. Kamal says:

    Hi Andreas,
    Am currently in the UK whiles my ex wife has file divorce since 2019 would it be a Problem whiles am not in Germany for the divorce process. I am German Citizen as well.

    Many Thanks

    • Hello Kamal,

      it’s not a problem if you don’t attend in person.
      You should just reply to the letter that you will receive from the court. Then they can grant the divorce in your absence.

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