The counseling service of the feminist organization Mujeres Creando in La Paz in Bolivia not only offers advice and help, but also a place to celebrate your divorce.
I always thought it made more sense to celebrate freedom instead of its loss.
But in South America, this thought is still rather revolutionary. Too many people here regard unmarried women (and, to a lesser extent, men) as sad losers who deserve pity. Too many parents push their children into unhappy marriages far too early, resulting in violence, alcoholism and femicide.
- More from Bolivia.
- And more about divorce.
I don’t think people are generally as brave as you think. Most stay in unhealthy relationships because they are expected to endure misery instead of accept personal growth.
Oh, I have no illusions about that, sadly. This pressure from society/family to try it, stick together, not to give up, is really toxic. Of course, many people also stay together for intrinsic motivation, as misguided as it may be (fear of loneliness, financial reasons).
It takes courage and perseverance to stand by one’s principles and beliefs.
For the most shallow of persons, it’s better to abandon happiness to keep up appearances and social expectations.
Maybe better people in relation not to live together , not to have children, and if marriage to happen, to set things clear financially and legally and how to manage children before even getting pregnant.